A Deeper Shade of Red

Are you ready to understand your most complex erotic desires?

It’s time to shine a light on your darkest fantasies. Let me show you how.

A Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive

Date: TBD

A Deeper Shade of Red

Are you ready to understand your most complex erotic desires?

It’s time to shine a light on your darkest fantasies. Let me show you how.

Very Limited Space! To ensure a well-curated experience for everyone attending, approval is required before purchasing your seat.

Unlock your hidden self.

Claim or release psychological control. Stop shying away from erotic humiliation play because you don’t feel skilled enough to handle it.

With the Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive, you’ll turn fear and confusion into confidence and understanding when it comes to exploring psychological torment on either side of play.

Thank you for teaching me to (consensually) humiliate someone with purpose, intention, and skill.

Past Attendee

What is A Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive?

A 3-day, fully immersive, interactive, and educational in-person retreat that’s designed to give you personalized guidance to often misunderstood desires.

This program is for you if…

  • You are interested in psychological torment play, but haven’t figured it out beyond that.
  • You’ve played with embarrassment or humiliation but want to improve your play.
  • You’re a “hardcore” player and are ready to take your play deeper and/or wider.

This event is appropriate for lifestyle and professional players at any level of experience. Dominants, submissives, and switches of all genders and orientations are welcome.

More about Erotic Humiliation

Erotic humiliation is a complex and varied fetish that offers kinksters lots of options for embarrassing, degrading, or humiliating play.

Humiliation isn’t just about smeared mascara and groveling under boots, it’s also about exploring vulnerability, trust, control, and sacrifice through absurdity, amusement, and consensual cruelty.

Erotic humiliation is a state of mind that can be cultivated through a huge variety of types of activities. Not only will the weekend include an in-depth explanation of the overall mechanics of psychological play, but we’ll also go into detail about specific types of scene and how to make them work for you, including, but not limited to:

Dehumanization, Sissification, Foot Fetish, Nudity, Tease and Denial, Enforced Chastity, Verbal Humiliation, Financial Domination, Watersports and Toilet Play, Domestic Service, Punishment and Discipline, Slut-shaming, Public Humiliation, and so much more.

We’ll spend time exploring your interests, goals, and motivations to get to the heart of creating the experiences you’re craving.

Kali made it very comfortable for people to participate. It was a fun and entertaining!

Past Attendee

Here’s a peek at what we’ll be covering:

Each day, Kali will share foundational information that will give you a framework for healthy, informed play.

Kali uses storytelling, small group discussions, demonstrations, fun worksheets, role-plays, and interactive opportunities to keep you engaged while giving you concrete and actionable advice that you can immediately apply to your kinky play. All content will also be adapted to the individual needs of the attendees based on a pre-event form and discussions during the retreat.

DAY 1: Know

  • Play at your level and with your interests
  • Communicate your needs, limits, fears, and desires
  • Push boundaries safely and ethically
  • Develop effective ways to build headspace
  • Overcome common obstacles

DAY 2: Do

  • Improve your verbal skills
  • Brainstorm creative and personalized ideas
  • Negotiate for safe, healthy, satisfying scenes
  • Plan and pace your play time
  • Prepare for when things don’t go as expected

DAY 3: Reflect

  • Review the core concepts and your top take-aways to reinforce the lessons
  • Explore the ways you can incorporate what you’ve learned into your future play
  • Celebrate the insights you’ve gained into yourself and your desire for erotic humiliation-focused experiences

Meet Princess Kali

Princess Kali has spent over eighteen years exploring not only the how but the why of alternative lifestyles.

Kali’s experience working as a professional dominatrix has given her a unique understanding of the motivations behind erotic humiliation play as well as a passion for helping people participate in it more safely and enjoyably. Her dynamic and engaging style of presenting has been welcomed at more than 150 venues including kink events such as Dark Odyssey, Fetish Fair Fleamarket, Kink in the Caribbean, and IMsL, as well as mainstream venues such as Harvard University and SXSW.

As the founder of Erotication.com, Kali is a pioneer of the “kinktrepreneur” business model, creating sites such as Kink Academy, Passionate U, and Fearless Press for easy access to adult sex and BDSM education. Her work continues to inspire and support many other kink educators, writers, and enthusiasts.

Kali is also the author of 5 books: Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation and Companion Workbook, Authentic Kink, 365 Days of Kink Journal, and The Yes, No, Maybe Workbook.

Class was engaging and [helpful for] laying the foundation for great humiliation play.

Past Attendee

Event Details

Date: TBD


Los Angeles, California at a hotel near LAX (specific location given to registered attendees)

General Schedule:


  • 9am – 5pm


  • 9am – 5pm
  • 9pm – optional fetish party at local club (additional cost)


  • 11am – 5pm


  • Singles, Couples, & Triads welcome.
  • Submissives, Dominants, & Switches welcome — all-genders & levels of experience.
  • Appropriate for Lifestyle & Professional Players.



Very Limited Space! To ensure a well-curated experience for everyone attending, approval is required before purchasing your seat.

What does registration include?

  • 3 days of personalized, in-depth instruction and insight
  • Continental breakfast every morning
  • Catered lunch every afternoon
  • Frame-ready certificate of completion
  • Enough To Make You Blush Workbook: Expanded Edition
  • You are responsible for your own lodging and travel to and from the venue.

Bonus! Saturday Night Fetish Party

Put your new skills to immediate use at this optional evening out at a local fetish party. More details to come. Door fee additional cost. Subject to change.

The Investment

Register early to save.

Seats in the Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive are limited, and due to overwhelming interest, they’re likely to go quickly.

Terrific information about how to communicate more effectively and get more enjoyment out of your scenes with your partner(s) no matter what kind of kinky play you enjoy.

Past Attendee

Have more questions? Here’s more answers!

What is the location of this retreat?

The first A Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive will be held in Los Angeles, California at a hotel near LAX. The exact location will be given to registered attendees.

Who is this for? Can anyone sign up?

A Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive is a highly curated event to ensure the best experience for everyone. The first step is to fill out this short form to give Kali a sense of your compatibility. If Kali believes you’re a good match for A Deeper Shade of Red, she’ll schedule a short video conference interview with you to further ensure you’re a good fit before being sent the registration link.

Dominants, submissives, and switches of all experience levels are all welcome. Kali speaks from her perspective as a dominant, but she also shares stories and insights from the submissive perspective.

The weekend has been designed to be useful for both lifestyle and professional players at any experience level, and the content will be adapted to fit the needs of those attending.

Do I need to have a partner?

Nope. You’re welcome to come solo, with a partner or with a friend. The experience is mostly focused on understanding your own desires. If you come with a partner, you can also look at the context of your relationship, but it’s not necessary.

What’s the weekend like?

A fun deep-dive into understanding erotic humiliation play and your own desires! The three days are full of demonstrations, group discussion, role-play, and more. We take breaks often to keep you moving; you’ll be surprised at how fast the time goes.

Is it “humiliating” to attend?

Definitely not. This is not a FemDom session with Princess Kali. Of course it’s a sexy topic, but it’s a learning environment rather than an overtly erotic one. There are some fun demonstrations with consensual participants, and if you attend with a partner, there are opportunities to try out what you’re learning.

What will we talk about?

While there’s a great deal of foundational information being shared, the content is tailored to the attendees. We focus on understanding the psychology of erotic humiliation in general, as well as how to explore your specific interests.

What if my interests are weird and I don’t want to talk about them in front of people?

First of all, in an environment like this your interests AREN’T weird! Secondly, you don’t have to share anything you don’t want to. Kali is skilled at creating an accepting, non-judgmental energy and she has some great ice-breakers planned that will help you get comfortable before jumping into the personal stuff.

What if I’ve already attended your shorter humiliation classes?

The 90-minute or 2-hour classes Kali teaches at conferences and for private spaces don’t even scratch the surface of the depth and breadth of topics under the psychological-torment umbrella. In the short format, there is little time for Kali to answer questions or share any kind of personalized info. During a 3-day intensive, we’ll have significantly more time to get to the kernel of what YOU need to have happy, healthy, humiliation experiences.

What should I wear? Should I bring anything?

The weekend is educational, so there is no need to dress in fetish fashion. Wear comfortable clothing and shoes. Feel free to bring any special snacks or items you need to be comfortable. If you plan on attending the optional fetish party on Saturday night, feel free to bring something special to wear or any specific toys you might need for play.

Can I buy walk up tickets?

No, there is very limited space and tickets are only available for purchase in advance.

Will you be doing this intensive again?

I’m not sure. Don’t put it off, seize the day!

What will I get out of this?

Excellent question! This is definitely a case for the old saying, “You’ll get out what you put in.” If you fully participate– approach the discussions with openness, and bring your most curious self to A Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive — you can make dramatic growth in your personal and/or professional life. Everyone benefits differently, but regardless, you will walk away with practical, innovative, and fun techniques to harness your own desires and create more authentic kink play.

Are you ready for a once-in-a-lifetime experience?

A Deeper Shade of Red: Weekend Intensive is happening in July 2020. Registration opens soon.

Really fun experience that reveals the bigger components at play with humiliation – very revelatory!

Past Attendee